A. Smiling causes a decrease in direct eye contact. People who gaze longer are better liked.
Two response to other students :
1. I usually do not have any problems with anxiety but in the past I was not so confident. To overcome this problem I tried to take deep breaths and I made sure that I researched and studied enough about the topic of the presentation. The other thing that may have helped is that when I was a kid I used to read from book to the microphone for the whole church. This taught me how to overcome anxiety even from a big crowd such as 100 people.
2. I personally do not think that smile is some kind of distraction. On the other hand, it is important to make sure that you give enough attention to the audience and that you try to interact with them. I do not think that smile could be some kind of a problem. But for sure it depends on a topic. If the topic is really serious then the smile is inappropriate.
Example of comment :
I agree with you that smiling in a serious conversation would seem inappropriate. I think when you are at a deep conversation, it is important that you gaze. Personally, I think it all depends on the current mood and situation of the conversation. Sometimes gazing too long can cause awkwardness.
Anyway, great post!
art1 - I do have communication/listener anxiety. When I need to speak in front many people, I will get nervous and start to talk faster compared to the usual. I don't have problem talking in front of people who I am close with, but if it isn't the case, I experienced communication anxiety. I think the best way to get better at handling the anxiety is to try and experienced talking in front of people I am not close with and as I experience it more often, the anxiety should get better.
Part 2 - I agree with the statement "Smiling cause a decrease in direct eye contact. People who gaze longer are better liked." For example, when I am talking with someone and we keep the eye contact, I feel the person I am talking with are actually listening and I feel more encourage to continue communicating with them.
Examples of comment :
Thanks for your response. I have the similar situations as yours. When I gave a presentation or talked to people who I am not so familiar with, I will also feel so nervous and cannot really control my speak speed. Here, I think it is better to do more practices because practice makes perfect.You will get used to know how to control yourself well when you are trying to remind yourself to slow down the speak speed in a conversation or presentation. About question two, you agree with the statement. In your example, you just discussed the benefit of eye contact without proving smiling cause a decrease in direct eye contact. So I would like to know your additional ideas. Nice posting! Thanks a lot !